You don’t need permission to be happy

I’ve been considering getting a new phone for quite some time. As everyone know, my phone is half-dead with broken keypads. I know having a smartphone is not a must, but in today’s world, it’s quite important to me for the you-know-what reason. Google information you need to know on the spot, checking important e-mails when you’re out, capturing moments using the cameea, GPS for a road idiot like me and etc. I’ve been wanting an iPhone ever since it launched 3 years ago. So now that I’m working and finally could afford one, I asked a friend’s advice on the latest iPhone 4s, as he told me he was going to get the same one.

Out of nowhere, the conversation turned into a lecture. He kind of scolded me for not being grateful and I should be ‘poor and happy’. He went on and on and I was stunned by what he just said and didn’t know what to reply. The best part was, in the end, he said:

You don’t have to listen to me, I’m a nobody to you anyway ‘

Wth?

My mood was totally ruined that morning. I skipped lunch and took a long walk around my company compound, under the sun. These 2 things were spinning in my head:

I never asked for anything unnecessary, I’m happy with what I have. I’m happy with my Kancil as long as it brings me to places. I’m happy with my phone as long as it could still text and call(now that it’s dying soon). I don’t spend on anything that is unrealistically sophisticated like a Gucci bag or Swarovski earrings. I get everything all by myself instead of asking from my parents. Am I not grateful?

So I should be poor and happy? Doesn’t that mean staying in your comfort zone? I don’t mean you must drive a BMW, or own a penthouse or all those stuff most people want to be happy. And I don’t mean it’s not okay to live in a mediocre life. I mean, shouldn’t we fight for what we want, achieve our goal, give all we can to make our dream come true?

These 2 things were stuck in my head for the whole day. As I was brushing my teeth before I sleep, this strikes me:

Why do I need permission to get what I want?

Exactly, I don’t need it at all. Why should I allow someone to infect what I’ve decided to do in the first place?

“Listen, smile, agree, and then do whatever you were gonna do anyway.” -Robert Downey J.

Often when we ask for opinion or advice, people might just tell you that you’re wrong or you shouldn’t do what you want to do.

The possibilities are:

They don’t even know what they’re saying

They don’t put you in their shoes

They might be retarded

Everyone has the right to say anything they want, but you have every right to say ’Thank you for sharing’. I just ruined my day by allowing people to infect me, instead of just smile and chose not to take it personally.

As Ms Mak mentioned, when things like this happened, think about what lesson can you learn from this, choose what is beneficial to you.

You are the Master of Your Own Happiness, don’t let anyone ruin it

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