What I want to do in life

Yesterday’s lesson was really fun and inspirational I must say. The topic we discussed was the worry I have been having these days, ‘What I want to do in life’.

Everybody wants to be happy and rich, but how are we going to make it happen? We went deep into the root of what we want in life, exploring ourselves and going into specific details.

Class 15/1/12

There are differences when you say ‘I know’ and ‘I believe’ . When you say ‘I know’ you literally stops your mind from moving; when you say ‘I believe I’ll…’ you give yourself moral support! We tried that in yesterday’s class. At first, I tell myself ‘I know’ and I felt I’m just saying it knowing I’ll not do it and when I tell myself ‘I believe I’ll…’ I felt this self-confidence within me, somehow knowing I’ll do that!
There are difference in the the word you choose, so beware of it. And that goes the same with sending message to the universe.

When you have that belief in you, you are already half way through your goal. The bridge to your goal is ACTION! To start your action is to do one thing at a time, slowly you’ll get more and more things done in a certain period of time because you already lighten up the one thing that are link to the other thing, when you realize, you already can handle much more thing that you expect.

Later on we did this ‘What I want’ exercise in group of two. So there are the one who question and the one who answer. Everyone has the opportunities to take part in both.
When I’m questioning I feel I’m helping my friends to find for what they truly want, and it felt great in a position of helping! When I’m answering, I first felt hard to answer those question, but later on I felt I have friends that will support me for my dreams!
And then we tell our friends about what we receive from them and re-confirm about it. Seems like our dream came nearer to us by doing that!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hzgzim5m7oU&feature=youtu.be

Success Formula

Do you know what is the different between I know and I believe? The different is when you say “i know” it’s just mean you know but at the same time you just stop pushing yourself to continue to the next level.Well “i believe”is mean you know and the same time you have a power pushing you to the goal!!

So after you have your mind believe you have to do things one step at a time cause you might be not good at it.So if you keep pushing yourself to do two thing at a time you will not do it perfectly .Example just like a car, if the tire already flat from the first place how can you arrive your goal in a right time.

But before this two idea we still need to be clear what we want before we start our journey.So how do we know what we want ? This  is the reason why i start this  blog from the beginning. Just follow the question and do it repeatedly 3 or 4 set ,the more you repeat the more you will clear what you want.

*1 what do I want?

*2 what must I do to have it?

*3 how would I feel when I have it?

*4 so what I really want is to feel it……

Believe me this is a really good way to find what you want . I wish i was not too over the top but i think this is the best way of knowing what we want deep down in our heart.

So today what i learn is first to know what you want and next is to believe and last thing is to do it one step at a time.(what you want +believe +do one step at a time=Goal)

You don’t need permission to be happy

I’ve been considering getting a new phone for quite some time. As everyone know, my phone is half-dead with broken keypads. I know having a smartphone is not a must, but in today’s world, it’s quite important to me for the you-know-what reason. Google information you need to know on the spot, checking important e-mails when you’re out, capturing moments using the cameea, GPS for a road idiot like me and etc. I’ve been wanting an iPhone ever since it launched 3 years ago. So now that I’m working and finally could afford one, I asked a friend’s advice on the latest iPhone 4s, as he told me he was going to get the same one.

Out of nowhere, the conversation turned into a lecture.

Something I learnt, and something I need help on.

I wanted to express something I really need help on.

If we doesn’t have the right money blueprint, it’ll be hard to reach financial freedom, yes or yes? In my case, YES! I doesn’t have the right money blueprint, so if I stay the same I’ll get the same result no matter what I’m on, where I’m at, who I’m with. In other words I have to start changing about this money blueprint programming in me. To change there is only three steps to achieve it, and that three step is
1.Awareness, being aware of how are we’ve been programmed, how does money works in this world ( regarding the topic of money ).
2.Understanding, understand what step we could take, understand why are we been programmed in such way, understand what money stands in our life why is it so important for you, until you find the WHY it’ll be nearly impossible for you to get the HOW.
3.Reconditioning, when you are aware and understand about money, it’s time to wash away your previous programmed mindset and start putting in new mindset. Start taking ACTION!!
What’s left is having total Faith in what you choose!!

There seems a problem in me about Change, I’m still at the situation where I’m not persistent about stuff I started. I realize my work on the 90 day wealth conditioning program are starting to deteriorate. My mind is pulling me back into my comfort zone! My mind is so slick! It trick me in a silent way yet fast! Today I realize I’ve been trick by my mind all the time. I kept recalling about those time I’d been trick by my mind, back then I thought it was me, but now I realize it’s my ego, but I still didn’t take full control about my ego.
There are lots of people out there they fall or hit something real bad in their life that made the biggest change in their life! The bigger the pain the bigger the change. In my case the pain I receive could probably kill me. Whatever I might need to fall onto in order to make me change, is that necessary?! Why can’t I change instead of hitting something??

I know I should start from myself first, but I’m really clueless how should I change about this ‘not being persistence’ problem. Can anyone help me out?

When others are offering help, don’t push them away; when you are all alone, don’t push yourself away.

Hi, I’m back from KL. Although this is my second time I attend MMI I learnt lots of new stuff.
Before I share what I’ve learnt in that event, I would like to share some other stuff that I’d come across.
This couple of month I’d learn that sometimes we have to face problems on our own, you know I used to live the life that rely on others’ decision or opinion, and the results are I did not solve any problem. On the other hand, Sometimes there are problem that we’ll be needing help from others, there is a saying ‘Two is Better than One‘. But to get the balance I know I’ve to start being more Self-Approval to myself. And so, I decide to go to KL and stay by my own, the moment I decided that, the little-evil-voice starts the engine telling me all sorts of stuff like ‘This is so dangerous’, ‘You can’t make it by yourself’, ‘Give up!’ etc. I feel the fear but then I talk back to the inner voice ‘Thanks for sharing, but NOT THIS TIME‘ I smiled to myself and start searching for Budget hotel and transportation. At that time, my brother, uncle, aunt came and help me out, my uncle start to call his KL friends, my brother start searching for more information about the budget hotel, my aunt told me about KL for me to familiarize it. I was so touch and I know this is the time I open my hand and receive their warm helps. That’s not the end, one of my friend know my situation and called me to offer me to share the accommodation with them. I don’t know how in the hell I could thank all of them.
When I reaches KL Puduraya 4:30A.M. I was all alone and everything over there are so unfamiliar, I was in fear facing those foreign workers, my plan was to take the LRT, but it’s not open until 6A.M. and I’m so not going to stay at PuduRaya for two hour, so I decided to take the taxi to get to Wisma M.C.A. I’m glad nothing happen. It’s really a great experience for me.
Before I had this experience I’m kinda eager to step on somewhere unfamiliar by myself, and when that happen I’m filled up with fear. What does this means? Anyone would like to help out and share? =)

Supports are important

I’ll share the MMI event on the next post.

Blogging : Where are you after 2 years?

Maturity

So we learnt about maturity, how to control  be aware of your emotions, how do you respond when you’re in certain kind of situation.

Speaking about maturity, this is how I always feel:

I’ve got colleagues I know of people who are really immature. For instance when they say something wrong, they would still argue with you until they got frustrated and end their argument with crude Hokkien swear. Of course, I don’t swear back(although I wanted to).

Here are the reactions I would give when I’m in such circumstances:

1. When people attack you

I get this all the time, from my mom. She has been described sometimes as quite  ’a piece of work’.  She’s always trying to discouraging in everything I want to do.

What I would do: My typical reaction :  Believe in what she said(for example when she said I’m useless), feel useless and wouldn’t pursue what I want.

What I will do: A better response : Don’t care about what she said, she doesn’t even know what she’s saying!

Nothing has meaning except for what we give it.  One thing I’ve learned is not to take things personally; often, they’re not personal. If you put yourself in her shoes – do you think she is DELIBERATELY trying to discourage you? Or is she projecting her own insecurities unto you? Perhaps her own conditioning has made me cynical and to focus on negative outcomes as an auto-response? What do you think?

2. When people disagree with you

What I would do: Argue with him/her until he/she agrees.

What I will do: Just listen and thank you for sharing. People have their own opinion. No matter their opinion is right or wrong, just let them be.

This is true. Everyone has a right to be wrong. If their opinion does not affect our relationship with them we can allow them to have their own opinion without necessarily putting a right or wrong to it. How about when it comes to someone accusing us of something we are not? Or have an opinion of us that we just don’t think is correct?

What I have found useful for myself is to put myself in the other person’s shoes and consider what their trigger is. Sometimes the trigger for the other person is not direct. For instance, if someone accuses you of not being a good friend because you won’t lend them money – put yourself in their shoes.  Do they really think you are a bad person? Or are they in a situation where they are truly desperate for that money? 

Chances are your friend will not truly think of you as a bad person otherwise why would they befriend you in the first place? And secondly, why would they reach out to you for help? Asking for help makes a person vulnerable. Of course they know you are a generous, kind-hearted person! Otherwise, why would they ask? The fact that you FEEL GUILTY for saying NO says nothing about your  friend’s attempt at manipulating you. It says EVERYTHING about your other buttons (too long to go into what those buttons could be). 

In this case try and understand where your friend is coming from. Your friend probably genuinely feels desperate. Your friend probably does this as a habit (getting money off people to facilitate a luxurious lifestyle as described by JT of a real-life scammer). Your friend probably has a self-esteem issue that requires them to have p0wer over you through this act.  When you view things with Love, how would your responses change?

3. If someone is unaware of their surrounding

For instance you talk about a topic that’s inappropriate or nobody’s interested.

What I would do: Ask them, ‘Hello are you listening?’

What I will do: Cool with it and stop talking about the topic.

That I have to learn. I always talk over-the-top of most people. It takes them years to digest what I’ve said. 

4. When people piss you off

What I would do: Curse the person and everyone who is related to them.   WHOA!  :O Are you and Basil twins?

What I will do: Breathe in, breathe out, let it go. Found this on Twitter, Never argue with an idiot. People watching won’t be able to tell the difference. If you argue with them, you will only be lowered at their level. Maintain your level, walk away. LOL!

When people piss you off, ask, “What’s the lesson here?” And FIND your BUTTON. It’s not easy, really. You need to work with someone a bit more stable to help you clarify your feelings and find your buttons. 

People get pissed with me a lot. And I understand that half the time it’s because they feel threatened by me. I used to think, “It’s not my problem if you’re easily threatened” but now I realize it’s not about me, it’s not personal. People want me to reassure them. It’s about them. 

Another half of the time people are pissed at me because they feel they’re not heard, not listened to.  

Now I have to keep reminding myself that being pissed at someone else who is pissed at me makes us nothing but pissing pots pissing at each other. 

5. People who is know-it-all

What would I do: Try hard to embarrass the person with facts HAHA

What I will do: Same when people disagree you, just listen to them and thank them for sharing.

The three most dangerous words in English!

6. Jealousy

What I would do: Hate the person to their bones.

What I will do: Everyone has their own purpose in life, their own blessings. So don’t compare.

You mean hate people who are jealous of you or you get jealous of others?

Wow,  JEALOUSY has to be one of the worst qualities anyone can plaster on themselves. I used to get very jealous in dating situations (the green-eyed monster!). But as I grew older I realized it’s because I am dating such high quality men that it’s not a surprise that other women would want a piece of that too! Would jealousy actually bring someone closer or drive them further away? Well, sometimes a BIT of jealousy works. Basil gets very jealous of my sons. And that serves as a reminder to me that I have to show her more appreciation. 

However, if you’re jealous of someone because they have a better pad, better wheels, better bods, better things, better this and that – then that is really P-O-I-S-O-N.

7. When people pull you into conflicts

What I would do: Have fun in the drama.

What I will do: Try my very best to get outta here!

VACUUM!

To conclude this post,

• Don’t compare yourself with others, God made you with different purposes
• View everything in love, see good in bad
• Stay cool, like a penguin

WOKAY! Reminder to SELF!

Ch.2 Education and the Significance of Life : Answer these questions.

1. What is considered an ignorant person?

2. Explain why ignorance can or cannot be overcome by knowledge.

3. What is the version of education we have now? Relate this to an experience you have had yourself.

4. What is the cause of Conflict and Confusion?

5. “Understanding creates Technique but Technique can never bring about Creative Understanding.” In your own words please explain what you understand by this.

6. According to the chapter, what is the greatest need and most pressing problem for every individual? Is it Freedom, Money, Career satisfaction, respect, prestige, status, Happiness, Love, etc? Explain your answer with evidence from your own insights to support your answer.

7. From what you have read what do you think the book is trying to say is the cause of “boredom” and from the chapter what indication can you get for how to not feel boredom or dullness in life? (Clue words : creative, integrating)

8. Is there a method to educate a child in order to be INTEGRATED and FREE? Please provide your ideas on how teachers can provide this kind of living, creative, wholistic education.

9. “A parent / teacher who who really understands his child does not look at him through the screen of the ideal.” (pg. 16). – Explain.

10. “There is a radical transformation only when we understand our own conditioning and are free from it.” – Do you think that you see the world as  you are (your conditioning) instead of how it is? (from Love’s point of view). Have you become aware of examples that aspects of yourself which you have come to believe is “you” is not really “you” but just the product of your past conditioning?

- what is conditioning?

- name the 3 major ways in which we are conditioned?

- give examples of conditioning in areas you have become aware of, how it has showed up in your life and what it has cost you.

11. Do you often see or hear messages about how we must change or transform our education system or why one school or college is better than another in producing better, more wholistic students for the world of tomorrow? There are many debates and discussions surrounding the topic of “the right kind of education.”  - According to Ch.2 (circa pg. 17) – Why do you think it would be futile for anyone in the world to talk about “the right kind of education”?

12. Do you think a lot of parents, teachers and governments struggle with coming up with the “right kind of education” for our children? What do yo think then is the solution?

13. What is the meaning of Inner Freedom? How do you cultivate Freedom and Intelligence?

14. How do we awaken sensitivity?

15. What is the real problem in Education?

Feeling low? A quick-tip to increase your energy.

~ from C.Whitman’s Law of Attraction.

Judgment is a lower level emotion and based on the Law of Attraction, you will attract more negative people, circumstances, and situations to you. If you need to make everyone conform in order to feel good about yourself and your world, you will never experience freedom. This is the exact opposite of freedom. This is bondage. We can never get the rest of the entire world to behave the way we think they “should”. This is why wars start.

When I view the world and myself with judgment I see only mistakes.

Let’s look at a possible example. If you are observing someone that talks with their mouth full of food, and instead of allowing them to eat the way they are, you find yourself getting disgusted and upset with that person. You really want that person to change, or stop doing the certain behavior (talking with their mouth full of food). You are afraid that you will look badly as well. Instead of just allowing that person to be as they are, you take it personally and let it affect your mood, and ultimately robbing you of your freedom.

The Law of Allowing is one of the laws that govern our Universe.  When we desire something to manifest from the Universe, and we are feeling negative emotions, we are blocking that creation from coming into manifestation. It is our negative emotions that holds us apart from it. When we release our resistance, we are back in the state of allowing and all the abundance, freedom, joy, success, prosperity, wealth, happiness (you name it) can flow to us.

The application of the Law of Allowing will bring absolute freedom in your life. You will feel free in your relationships to be who you are. You will feel free in your career to do what you want. And you will feel free in your life to create whatever you desire.

Say this to yourself :

“I am that which I am.
While I am that which I am,
I allow others to be that which they are.”